Gratitude Lists Made Me Feel Worse, Until I Changed One Word Every November, I’d hear the same advice: write down what you’re grateful for. It’ll help. Make a list. Count your blessings. Be thankful. So I tried. I sat down with my notebook and wrote the things I was apparently supposed to feel grateful for. And instead of feeling lighter, I felt like I’d been given homework by someone who had never had a hard November. Because here’s what happened: my real feelings didn’t disappear. They just got an extra layer of guilt on top. I could be grateful for the people I love and still feel lonely. I could appreciate the good things and still be depressed, anxious, tired, or missing someone. Why did my list make that feel like a personal failure? This is part of the same November conversation as “Thanksgiving at a Table With Empty Chairs: A Guide for People Who Are Missing Someone.” Some holidays come with an empty chair, some come with complicated family stuff, and some come with a bra...
Due to technical issues, episode LXXVI will be late. Explanation will be on the show. Sorry about this
