Consistency has always been an issue with me. And I don't know why. I really want to do things over and over again and develop patterns, but my life is often chaotic and always moving. I guess what I have to learn how to do is find the things I'm really good at and continue staying disciplined with those things. For instance, my working out has been very consistent. I go to the gym at least five times a week. Sometimes six. And I see results starting to pay off. I also stay on top of my scheduling at work lately. That's not where I've been falling off. What I really would like to do is start doing my intention ceremonies that I keep saying I'm going to do. I do it once or twice a week and then I forget about the other five days. Also, I really want my mood to be more consistent, but that is difficult for me because of my mental health issues. I feel like we all need help with consistency, especially with mental health, because we need to be held accountable fo...
Your Sad Songs Are Keeping You Stuck , The Science of Matching Music to Your Mood (and Escaping It) Part of Breathe N Bounce’s October series, “The Octaves of October.” I have a confession: sometimes I put on a sad song because I need to feel understood. Not fixed. Not coached. Not blasted with some aggressively cheerful anthem about “choosing joy” while I’m lying on the couch wondering why answering one email feels like climbing Mount Everest. Understood. There are days when I need Bon Iver, Phoebe Bridgers, The National, or some painfully beautiful song that seems to know exactly where the bruise is. And then there are days when I realize I’ve been listening to the same emotional funeral procession for two hours, getting more depressed with every chorus. So, is the song helping me feel what I feel, or am I using it to build a little sadness apartment and refusing to move out? That’s the uncomfortable question. Sad music is not automatically bad for us We’ve all heard the w...
